Fleetwood Mac’s “Landslide” is one of my favorite songs about life and embracing change. For me, it’s about evolution, courage, and growth. Depending on my mood, the lyrics feel nostalgic, happy, hopeful, and sometimes bittersweet.
Change is inevitable. It’s often scary, paralyzing or frightening. Yet it can also be exhilarating, freeing and liberating.
Stevie Nicks wrote “Landslide” for Lindsey Buckingham at a time when their relationship was in a rocky place. The lyrics speak to the crossroad of life, and the opportunity to go ahead and take a chance on choosing the road less traveled.
Well, I've been afraid of changin'
'Cause I've built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older
And I'm getting older, too
-"Landslide" by Stevie Nicks
The fork in the road in front of you presents beautiful opportunities to live more boldly. Embrace the change. Discover who you are in this moment. What do you want to do with knowledge that you have about yourself?
If you have children, you know how they grow not just physically, but emotionally too. Parents want to raise strong, independent kids who will find their place in the world. They are growing up, exploring and getting older. Are you getting bolder and ready to take your life to the next level?
My daughter was the Velcro Kid when she was little, attached to my leg for dear life in our Mommy and Me playdates. She clung to me when I dropped her off at preschool. Suddenly, she was four years old, asking her dad to build a little apartment over our garage. The writing was on the wall. She was getting older and bolder.
In the blink of an eye, she was a young adult planning to go to Tanzania for the summer to do research. It happened! My daughter no longer planned to live in a cozy cottage in our backyard. My husband and I went from being her entire world, to waving goodbye to her at Kennedy Airport, blinking back our tears. She was taking on the world, and it was a reminder to me that it was time to do the same in my own way.
No, I’ve not been to Tanzania. Nor have I traveled to Africa or Europe on my own. That’s not where my dreams lie. I didn’t study abroad for a year. Sometimes I wonder if I had studied abroad, would I be itching to pack a bag, grab a friend and take off to explore?
My dreams are more about connecting and empowering people to live with passion and joy.
With two high school students in my home, busy with studies and sports, I often found myself singing “time makes you bolder, children get older and I’m getting older, too.”
After teaching preschool for many years, I was ready to take my career to the next level. I went back to school to become a life coach when my daughter was a freshman in college. The support and excitement that my two kids had for me was eye-opening! They saw (before I did) that it was time for me to grow in a new direction.
I bravely took the fork in the road, became a Certified Professional Coach, and embraced the changes that have happened ever since. I help others find their bold inner power whether it’s
- Relationship challenges and changes
- The ages and stages of parenting
- Reconnecting to joy and purpose
- Advocating for health and embracing healthier lifestyles
- Discovering how life and health transitions can lead to more health and happiness
This is the stuff that lights me up in a big way. And I’m so grateful that I’m doing it!
I resisted for a long time, because...well, I was stuck holding onto old beliefs that success is something measurable and tangible. I needed to wake up, to be older, bolder and wiser to welcome the things into my life that feel right and fulfilling. Joy, health and happiness are more challenging to measure, but you can be sure that you know it when you find it.
If you’re not living, you’re dying. Life is a never-ending natural cycle. Water flows through mountain streams, into rivers, eventually ending up in the ocean. When blocked, the water overflows for awhile, eventually carving a new path in the earth. That’s the way of the world. Stopping natural movement creates havoc. Change is constant. Sometimes gradually, sometimes in a heartbeat.
Maybe you like shake things up. Or perhaps you hold tightly to what’s familiar, resisting every step of the way because it takes you outside of your comfort zone.
I invite you to think about how you might live more boldly.
What if you began thinking of change as an opportunity? Think about the dreams you have, not yet pursued. I wonder what stories run through your head that keep you from trying. Time moves on. If not now, when?
When you’re at a fork in the road, you can stay on the safely lighted path. Or, you can choose the path that’s calling to you, and begin to do the things that you’ve only dreamed of doing.
Life goes on, ever-changing and always evolving. You may wake up and ask “who am I?”
A sudden and unexpected life event may have blindsided you. Or you’ve been so focused on your job or raising your family that you realize that you feel disconnected and lost. Are you ready for more, and aren’t sure exactly what that looks like?
Kids are growing up and becoming independent. Suddenly, you might look at your partner and wonder ‘what are we doing here?’
If your career leaves you unfulfilled and wondering what’s next, or whether you’re still marketable, maybe it’s time to think about where you want to go. Do you have a dream career that you’ve put on hold?
I continue to work on following my own path and being fulfilled. What exactly does that look like? It’s like a walk along the shoreline. I know which direction I’m going in, but not exactly where I’ll end up. Along the way there are places to explore, beauty to enjoy, and some mucky stuff to get through. The tide changes and brings interesting things along the way. Being open and flexible feels much better to me than surrendering to a “this is how life is” way of thinking.
Life flows more easily when I don’t try to stop it, or force something to happen that isn’t meant to be. It means welcoming the natural rhyth of life, and knowing that the joy is in the journey.
Are you ready for time to embrace being older and bolder? If so, I want to hear from you! What changes are you afraid of? What changes have you been through that have brought you onto a new path in life? In what ways do you want to step into your life with more boldness and live more fully?
Denise Fountain is a Life Transitions Specialist and Certified Professional Coach. She works with women going through transitions to rediscover themselves and create lives that are happy, healthy and whole again. Together with her clients, she explores the connection between stress, health and happiness, and guides her clients to move forward to make lasting and sustainable changes. She is passionate about helping women live their best lives. Sign up for updates while you’re on this site! Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org to learn more about how Denise can partner with you to create the life you dream of.